One of the best days of my life took place this last Monday, July 15; I became legally married to my partner of 6 years. Yes!!! Introducing Mr & Mr LeMar ! I have to say that the fight for Marriage Equality wasn't real important to me when LGBT activists began fighting for it. I am from the generation where Gay couples getting married wasn't even thought of. LGBT were brainwashed or taught to believe that their relationships were not worthy of marriage. Our relationships were not built on the same "traditions" of straight marriage. We were told about the "sanctity of marriage" , and even Kim Kardashians 72 day marriage was more acceptable than long term LGBT relationships.
After Prop 8 passed and Gay Marriages were banned in California, it finally sunk in that Marriage Equality was indeed a fight for Civil Rights. LGBT were considered 2nd Class and inferior to straight people. It was at this same time that I started my relationship with my HUSBAND. 6 years passed and Prop 8 & DOMA cases finally made it to the Supreme Court. During these six years that LGBT activists worked tirelessly , our relationship was only becoming stronger. So our evolving relationship should also have all the rights and perks that straight married couples receive. I didn't need a marriage certificate or our government to validate our strong bond, but the institution of marriage does hold some magic. When I looked into my Husbands eyes as our vows were being read, I realized then that marriage is the ultimate seal and validation of our relationship. Marriage is the announcement to the world that this life we hold so precious will be forever shared with the one you love.
My family & friends made it a day to remember & I hope to become a stronger advocate and activist until Marriage Equality is in every state of the USA! LOVE IS LOVE !